一项研究显 示，勇敢反击欺负对 孩子的成长有利，他们更有可能发展出健康的社会和情感技能。 加州大学洛杉矶分校的研究人员研究了11岁和12岁的美国儿童，对比了那些对抗欺凌和没有反抗的孩子之间的差异。研究人员发现，以暴对暴的儿童最成熟。能 抗御校园欺凌的男孩在教师眼里有更好的社交技能，而反抗欺负的女孩在同学和老师心目中更受欢迎和备受赞赏。研究还发现，负面经验可以帮助儿童学习如何应对 冲突，并了解到生活中不是每一个人都像他们一样。
By David Derbyshire
Last updated at 10:01 AM on 24th May 2010
It is considered one of the most stressful experiences of childhood.
But standing up to bullies and classroom enemies can help children develop, psychologists claim.
A study has shown that youngsters are more popular and more admired by teachers and friends if they return schoolyard hostility in kind.
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'Mutual dislike' can help students develop healthy social and emotional skills - and can sometimes have a bigger impact on their development than friendships, the researchers claim.
In a study of American children aged 11 and 12, researchers from the University of California, Los Angeles, compared those who stood up to aggressors with those who did not.
Children who returned hostility with hostility appeared to be the most mature, the researchers found.
Boys who stood up to bullies and schoolyard enemies were judged more socially competent by their teachers.
While the study did not suggest that it was healthy to be the victim of bullying, it found negative experiences could teach children about conflict resolution.
It could also give them an early lesson that not everybody in life is going to like them, the researchers said.
Psychologist Melissa Witkow, who is now at Willamette University in Oregon, said: 'The study backs up research from academic Helene Guldberg, child development expert at the Open University, who said teachers should not protect pupils from playground spats as they can help them handle difficult events in the future.'
However, anti-bullying campaigners condemned her remarks at the time, saying teachers needed to be vigilant about the problem.
Some celebrities have reflected on how fighting back against bullies helped define their childhood.
Comedian Eddie Izzard said he became a 'rock' after fighting off bullies at the six boarding schools he attended.
'No one was going to give me a hard time because I was going to give them a hard time,' he said.
'I was already built to resist any problems that would come up.'
Michelle Heaton, the former Liberty X singer, was bullied at school because she was overweight.
'It was horrible but it made me a better person,' she revealed in an interview.
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